I’m Not Shy – I’m Introverted!

As I fly across the country to meet a large group of new people that I’ll be working with, I can’t help but think about how I’ll be perceived by them. I always tell people that I’m shy, but that’s just not it. I love meeting new people, and I love doing new things. But here’s the thing:

It may come as a shock to some people, but I’m actually quite introverted. Yeah, this blogger who shares her life online actually prefers solitude to large groups of loud people and crowded events sometimes.

And all my life, being an introvert has kind of felt like I’ve been trying to fit a square introvert peg into the round hole that is my outgoing and open personality. Lately I’ve been doing a lot of reading about introverts and the difference between this and being “shy” or just a loner. Here is a great TED talk by another introvert that talks about all of the great things about being one.

Whenever I get a bit anxious or nervous about meeting new people or talking about my shyness introverted personality, I remember these 10 myths about introverts that helped me understand myself so much the first time I read it. Here are some of my favourite excerpts:

Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk.

Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact.

Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.

Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They take in data and experiences very quickly…They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.

Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. 

You can read the list in it’s entirety, but I’m going to go back to my book & coffee and get ready to board my next flight.
I’m going to get to San Francisco this afternoon and I’m going to meet a lot of new friends, coworkers, and experience a lot of new things, and I’m going to be okay. I’m just going to be me, because no one else does that as well as I do! 

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  1. February 3, 2013 / 11:16 am

    Congrats on all things NEW! I’m an introvert as well 😛

    GREAT POST! Hope to run into you soon!

    • JamieLeighTO
      February 3, 2013 / 8:04 pm

      Of course you are – most good writers are 🙂
      Keep on keepin’ on and thanks for reading my little corner of the internet.

  2. Summer
    February 3, 2013 / 3:17 pm

    Omg Jamie, I may have just (re)discovered myself! I am so with you on this. Really good post!! I have faved it to read more about this later. Thanks!!

    • JamieLeighTO
      February 3, 2013 / 8:04 pm

      I’m so happy you found this then 🙂 Thanks for reading. Finding the myths and then the TEDTalk was a really important part of me learning more about myself. Glad I could find another introvert – there’s a lot of us 🙂

  3. February 4, 2013 / 8:40 pm

    Good post, Jamie 🙂 I’ve seen Susan Cain myself at The Art of Leadership and I have to say that I wasn’t too impressed by her talk in comparison to the other speeches that were given. (Perhaps it’s because the other speakers were extroverts and that’s what resonates with me?)

    Have a great time in San Francisco 🙂

  4. damn
    March 18, 2013 / 10:53 am

    No.6 is so me…i really get lonely about the fact that I can’t share anything with anyone cuz everyone has different tastes then me :/